Re-Wiring the brain for health, happiness & Success

I came across this list in Forbes. They listed the top 25 regrets people have. I’ve commented on the top 10.
 
Reading them I realized that every one of them can be avoided or greatly reduced when a person has self belief, confidence, courage and lovingness – along with the skills to let go of fear and heal burdensome memories – all abilities that any of us can learn and develop.
 

REGRETS…

 
1. Working so much at the expense of family and friendships. How do you balance meeting that short-term deadline at work and sitting down for dinner with your family? There are worries. “What will my boss and co-workers think? It’s not a big deal if I stay late this one time. I’ll make it up with the family this weekend.” But the “making up” never seems to happen. Days turn to months and then years and then decades.
 
SOLUTION: Being able to say ‘no’. Being able to handle whatever anxiety, fear and worry come up saying no. Feeling deserving of a good life. Being able to have good working boundaries. Valuing yourself – not being a doormat or excessively people pleasing. Being able to take a step back and respond to the situation with perspective. Being aware of what’s truly important and having the courage to prioritize that.
 
2. Not standing up to bullies in school and in life. Believe it or not, a lot of our biggest regrets in life have to do with things that happened to us in early age. We never seem to forget – or forgive ourselves – for not speaking up against the bullies. We were too scared. We wish we had been more confident. And by the way most of us have also met up with a bully in our work life. Maybe he was our boss. We remember that one time we wish we’d told him off – even if it cost us our job.
 
SOLUTION: Letting go past emotional hurts and burdens. Learning how to forgive in such a way that we no longer regret our behavior and can move on from the experience.
 
3. Not staying in touch with some good friends from my childhood and youth. There’s usually one childhood friend who we were best buddies with. Then, one of us moved away. We might have stayed in touch at first but then got busy. Sometimes, we thought to pick up the phone, but maybe we don’t have their number or email any more. We always wonder what it would be like to sit down with them again for a coffee.
 
SOLUTION: Having the loving courage to look them up and contact them. Also being able to be open to new friendships and to be able to handle loss in such a way as to recover and move on. Believing ourselves to be lovable and worthy of friends.
 
4. Turned off my phone more/Left my phone at home. Many of us can’t get off our phone/email addiction. We sleep with it next to us. We carry it with us constantly. It’s right next to us in the shower, just in case we see a new email icon light up through the steamed up shower glass. We know constantly checking email and Twitter in the evenings and on weekends takes us away from quality time with family and friends. Yet, we don’t stop.
 
SOLUTION: Awareness and mindfulness of our actions. Being able to stay present to others and be involved in conversations.
 
5. Breaking up with my true love/Getting dumped by them. Romance is a big area of regret for most of us. Maybe we dumped someone that we wish we hadn’t. Maybe they dumped us. Most play a never-ending game of “what might have been” for the rest of their lives. It is tough to simply be happy with the love that you’ve found and takes away from the special moments you have today, if you’re constantly thinking back to what you once had — which actually might not have been half as good as we think it was.
 
SOLUTION: Being able to resolve deep emotional hurt. Being able to form relationships and value ourselves and others.
 
6. Worrying about what others thought about me so much. Most of us place way too much importance on what other people around us think about us. How will they judge us? In the moment, we think their opinions are crucial to our future success and happiness. On our death beds, none of that matters.
 
SOLUTION: Resolve the worry that deep down we’re ‘not good enough’, ‘unlovable’ or ‘going to be found out’. We have these unresolved fears and worries and they can ruin our lives.
 
7. Not having enough confidence in myself. Related to the previous point, a big regret for most of us is questioning why we had such little confidence in ourselves. Why did we allow the concerns of others to weigh so heavy on us instead of trusting our own beliefs? Maybe we didn’t think we were worth having what we wanted. Maybe we just thought poorly of ourselves. Later on, we wish we could have been more self-confident.
 
SOLUTION: Question the lack of self belief. Challenge those limited ideas we have about ourselves. Learn how to deal with and let go of feelings of unworthiness, self-consciousness & doubt.
 
8. Living the life that my parents wanted me to live instead of the one I wanted to. Related to that lack of confidence, a lot of us get sucked into living the life that we think a good son or daughter should live. Whether because we’re explicitly told or just because we unconsciously adopt it, we make key life choices – about where to go to school, what to study, and where to work — because we think it’s what will make our parents happy. Our happiness is derived through their happiness – or so we think. It’s only later – 1o or 20 years on – where we discover that friends around us are dying and we’re not really doing what we want to do. A panic can start to set in. Whose life am I living any way?
 
SOLUTION: Become more self-aware – ‘what would I like’ & ‘what are my dreams and values’. Also become aware of how we fear disappointing our parents or how much we fear that we won’t have a connection with them if we do our own thing. This is an emotional dilemma many face, but which is resolvable.
 
9. Not applying for that “dream job” I always wanted. Maybe we didn’t apply for that job we always wanted to because of a child, or because our spouse didn’t want to move cities. It might not have been the perfect job for us, but we always regret not trying out for it.
 
SOLUTION: Take responsibility for decisions, communicate clearly, look for creative solutions, ask for support etc. Let go of the fear that we’re ‘selfish’ or going to lose approval from others if we aim for what you want.
 
10. Been happier more. Not taken life so seriously. Seems strange to say, but most of us don’t know how to have fun. We’re way too serious. We don’t find the humor in life. We don’t joke around. We don’t think we’re funny. So, we go through life very serious. We miss out on half (or maybe all) the fun in life that way.
 
SOLUTION: Do something a little silly today. Crack a joke with the bus driver – even if he ends up looking at you weird. Do a little dance. You’ll probably smile, on the inside if not the outside. Now keep doing that, day after day.
Challenge the worrisome thoughts and fears of looking like a fool. Be grateful for what is right now.
 
11. Gone on more trips with the family/friends.
12. Letting my marriage break down. There are usually lots of signs and problems leading up to separation. The regrets most of us have is that we didn’t correct some or most of those “little things” along the way.
13. Taught my kids to do stuff more. Kids love their parents, but they love doing stuff with their parents even more.
14. Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend. We think we’ve done all we can and washed our hands of the relationship. We’ll usually regret it when the other is no longer around.
15. Trusting that voice in the back of my head more. Whether it’s as simple as taking a job we weren’t really thrilled about or as complex of being the victim of some crime, most of us have had the experience of a little voice in the back of our heads warning us that something was wrong here. A lot of times, we override that voice. We think that we know best. Most of the time, we learn later that voice was dead right.
16. Not asking that girl/boy out. Nerves get the best of us – especially when we’re young. We always wish we could have just said what we really felt at the time.
17. Getting involved with the wrong group of friends when we were younger. We’re impressionable when we’re young. We never start out thinking our choice of friends could lead us to difficult outcomes – but regret it later.
18. Not getting that degree. It leads to feeling insecure, almost like being worried they are going to be “found out
19. Choosing the practical job over the one I really wanted.
20. Spending more time with the kids.
21. Not taking care of my health when I had the chance. Everyone doesn’t think of their health – until there’s a problem. And at that point, we promise ourselves if we get better we’ll do a better job with our health. It shouldn’t take a major calamity to get us to prioritize our health and diet. Small habits every day make a big difference here over time.
22. Not having the courage to get up and talk at a funeral or important event. When you’re close to death, you’re probably going to wish you’d gotten over those fears on at least a few occasions, but especially at a loved one’s funeral or some important event like a wedding.
23. Not visiting a dying friend before he died.
24. Learning another language.
25. Being a better father or mother.
 
If these or other regrets are troubling you feel free to get in touch. I’m always happy to chat about how life can improve.
You can reach me at 01 207 9615 or drop me a line to
Info@DublinMindTraining.com
Have a great week,
Ailish

How many smokers do the sums of what smoking costs them in a year?

 
I’m talking only of the financial costs. There’s the direct price of the cigarettes themselves – say 20 a day at €10.50 works out at €73.50 a week or the guts of €4,000 a year. Then there’re the smaller costs of the gum and the breath fresheners, the extra bar of chocolate, lucozade, coffee, paper or magazine that gets picked up on the cigarette run. The cost of the extra bit of petrol and so on.
 
Not to get too Scrooge like about expenditure – but it does all add up.
 
I remember talking with my mam about how she stopped smoking more than 30 years ago. On a particularly cold day the oil for the range ran out. Their budget couldn’t stretch to an immediate re-fill and during the few weeks until they got more oil she done the maths. She could keep the range going all the time – for the whole winter – on what she (and granny at the time) were spending on cigarettes. She absolutely hates being cold so that was the deciding point for her. She gave up the fags for heat. And by the time summer arrived she was feeling the benefits of being smoke free that she never went back on them.
 
There are the yearly medical costs. Smokers tend to get more chest infections, ear infections and colds. Sometimes these involve trips to the doctor – at €50-70 a go. And then there’re the antibiotics, inhalers, lozenges and ointments to buy.
 
Unfortunately if there has been enough damage done the smoker is into significant medical costs and will also incur the costs that surround hospital treatment. Costs of surgery (transplants, bi-passes, limb amputations, lump removal) and chemo may be covered by insurance but the nights over, travel and eating costs that surround treatment times commonly aren’t.
 
As smokers are at a greater risk of ill health they are penalised on the price of health insurance and it goes up – at a time it’s most likely to be needed.
 
And again I’m just focused on the financial pain – the physical and emotional pain of diagnosis and treatment is obviously horrible in its own right.
 
The cost – financial and other – is not an easy thing for a smoker to contemplate.
 
I don’t wish to scare anyone but the sooner a smoker stops smoking the better. It was better for my mam and gran – for their health and happiness – and ours as kids at the time. It’s better financially, better physically and better emotionally. It’s empowering getting off the fags. It’s an achievement. And it’s possible, even for the most ardent of smokers.
 
One session is all that’s required to quit for good so feel free to get in touch.
 
You can reach me at 01 207 9615 or drop me a line to
Info@DublinMindTraining.com
 
Have a great week,
Ailish
 

It isn’t difficult to know when we are anxious and worried. We can all too easily feel it in our bodies. Our heart might be racing, hands cold or clammy, we find it difficult to take a satisfying breath, we can blush, get blotchy necks and backs, sweat, all with an upset stomach, our lungs and chest feel heavy and our limbs feel jelly like and weird.
 

We can feel teary, flustered and on edge, looking out for threat and ready to defend ourselves. There can be strong feelings of overwhelm, wanting to run away or go invisible and we can feel small and helpless.
 
And feeling like this is very uncomfortable so we try to avoid the people or situations that trigger us. Then our world gets smaller. The places and people we feel safe with reduce. Our lives are controlled to avoid anything that sets off anxiety. And all the managing of anxiety takes up hours of our day.
 
We feel different to others – they seem to be able to take life in their stride – we conclude there must be something wrong with us. And so begins the crippling and cruel self assessments. These are commonly more painful to live with than the physical feelings of anxiety. Ideas like ‘not good enough’, ‘won’t be able’, ‘can’t do’, ‘stupid, ‘too scared’, ‘fraud’, ‘don’t tell anyone’, ‘people won’t like me’ and so on. Living with a foreboding sense that we will never be enough is a scary, lonely and exhausting way to go through life.
 

Small events are over-thinked and every possible scenario is considered – usually with a focus on what could go wrong or how we will mess up, be confronted or fail. We engage in worst possible outcome thinking and tire ourselves out with imagined argumentative conversations, imagined scenes feeling awkward on our own, imagined rejections, imagined ridicule.
 
Our digestion suffers and we feel pressure to go to the bathroom before meetings. We could have hours of couch time curled up with stomach aches.
 
And when things are going well we are waiting for when it will turn bad – waiting for the other shoe to drop.
 
It’s very stressful living with daily anxiety.
 

Why the anxious response?

We originally evolved to trigger the ‘fight or flight’ reaction in response to a clear and present physical threat. If someone was attacking us we needed to find an exit to run away or have the energy to fight back.
 
Then as we evolved in social groups – where we needed to work as a pack/community to survive – the same ‘fight or flight’ response got triggered whenever a person perceived themselves to be in social danger of exclusion. As isolated pack members were in more danger than those in the group, social exclusion is linked to our survival ‘fight or flight’ response. This is why we get the same physical response now whenever we perceive ourselves to be in social danger.
The key word here is ‘perceive’. If we think we are ‘less than’, requiring approval (and don’t feel we are likely to get it), ‘different’, ‘unloved’, ‘not good enough’, ‘going to be found out’ we kick off the anxious reaction.
 
Thankfully for most people physical threat is no longer part of daily life however we commonly feel a fear of social threat.
 

Ways to resolve anxiety:

The solution to this kind of anxiety is to question and change – emotionally – the perceptions we have about ourselves that are stressful to believe. We can re-educate our brain that we aren’t in danger. We can build an inner sense of strength and self approval. We can heal past painful experiences that still trouble us.
 
A simple exercise is to get into the habit of questioning our thinking rather than just believing it. How likely is what the mind saying to be true?
 
A thought no longer believed can no longer trouble us.
 
There are plenty of proven and effective ways to resolve excessive anxiety.
 
Change and true and lasting freedom is possible.
 
I’m always happy to chat about how life can improve so feel free to get in touch. You can reach me at 01 207 9615 or drop me a line to
 
Info@DublinMindTraining.com
Have a great week,
Ailish
 

How to gain freedom from stressful thoughts

 
No thought has any power to hurt you – until you believe in it. When a thought is invested with the power of belief, with the power of identification and with the power of attention it becomes something that can cause you stress.
 

When the mind says ‘you can’t do that’ and you believe that thought you are likely not to even attempt doing it.

When the mind says ‘you are not good enough’ and you identify with it and turn it into ‘I am not good enough’ it feels like the truth about the measure of your worth.

When the mind says ‘what if the presentation doesn’t go well’ and you play out imagined scenarios about all that could go wrong, paying attention to the worrisome thought you supply the mind with the power to stress you out.

 
Stressful, negative, worrisome thoughts are often on automatic and due to our conditioning. They are however, by themselves, powerless.

 

Prove your power

To prove this to yourself get into the habit of saying ‘so’ to the stressful thoughts that arise in the mind. Hold an indifferent, dismissive attitude towards the critical mind chatter and confirm for yourself that you hold the power and don’t have to suffer the effects of believing stressful thoughts.

 

Mind says….’You’ll mess it up’…. You say….. ‘Soooo‘!

Mind says….’I’m going to make a fool of myself’…. You
say….. ‘So‘!

Mind says….’They will laugh at me’…. You say….. ‘So‘!

Mind says….’I’ll never meet anyone’…. You say….. ‘So‘!

Mind says….’I’m too far behind’…. You say….. ‘So‘!

Mind says….’You’re too ugly’…. You say….. ‘So‘!

Mind says….’You’re going to fail’…. You say….. ‘So‘!

 
And so on until you fully appreciate that you can be free of the effects of investing power in all negative conditioned thinking.
 

 
There is a direct link between nutrition and mood and also our physical health. The following is a list of 6 clinically proven ways to improve mood and health through nutrition. It is recommended to adapt these ways and to research further so that you are educated and better able to make successful health choices.

 
1. Vitamin C.
Required to be taken in quantities much higher than the RDA. The therapeutic range for Vit C therapy is 6,000 – 40,000 mg per day. There is over 60 years of clinical evidence of using Vit C therapy in high doses of 10,000mg + a day. It works with so many processes in the body and acts as a anti viral, anti bacterial, anti aging, anti histamine and anti oxidant.
 
History:
• Claus w Jungeblut first published on Vit C as prevention and treatment for polio 1935
• In 1935 he showed Vit C inactivated diphtheria toxin
• In 1937 he demonstrated Vit C inactivated tetanus toxin
• Between 1943-1947 Frderick R Klenner, a specialist in diseases of the chest, cured 41 cases of viral pneumonia with Vit C. By 1949 he had successfully treated polio.
• By 1946 William J McCormick showed how Vit C prevents and also cures kidney stones. By 1957 how it fights cardiovascular disease.
• Beginning in the 1960’s Robert F Cathcart used large doses of Vit C to treat flu, pneumonia, hepatitis and eventually in the 1980’s and 1990’s ADIS.
• In the 1970’s Ewan Cameron (Scotland) and Hugh D Riordan (USA) successfully used high doses of Vit C against cancer (intravenous and oral dosing of Vit C)
 
2. Plant based diet .
Automatically low fat diet and will usually result in natural weight loss for overweight people. High in fibre and nutrient dense. Feel better, be healthier and usually cheaper.
 
3. No Junk food
• Reduces sugar automatically. Whatever your health problem sugar makes it worse.
• Reduces artificial colours and other harmful food additive intake automatically.
• Reduces hyperactivity automatically.
• Reduces fat automatically.
• Reduces cost.
 
4. Niacin
• Cheapest, safest and most effective way to lower triglycerides, LDL (bad) cholesterol
• Cheapest, safest and most effective way to raise HDL (good) cholesterol
• Cheapest, safest and most effective way to treat schizophrenia, psychosis, depression, Obsessive compulsive disorder, bipolar disorder, anxiety and even osteoarthritis.
• The levels of niacin required varies from person to person. The therapeutic range is 2,000 – 4,500 mg /day taken with food. Niacin causes a harmless flush response that some people don’t like, however the non flush niacinamide can be taken instead and will provide the same psychological benefits.
 
5. Multivitamin with ever meal
• Biggest health bargain on the planet
• Cheaper than eating right. Even a cheap version is better than nothing.
• However high potency natural versions are best
• Select one with natural Vit E (delta-tocopherol)
• Avoid ferrous sulphate iron preparations as they can upset the stomach or get a version without iron (if male, post menopausal or have haemochromatosis)

 
6. Read. Knowledge is power so research nutrition and its effect on mood and physical health.
 
Andrew Saul phD
www.Doctoryourself.com

Attention is Creation!

 
What if it is the case that what we put our energy / attention on is what is creating our life. If the power of our focus is a creative energy – then it’s interesting to consider what it is we pay attention to on an hourly, daily and weekly basis.

Are we focused on our passions and making them the priority of our focus, or instead are we problem solving and fire fighting – getting more problems to solve and fires to put out as a result?
 

Reflective Practice

1) What is it I value – if I was on my death bed what is it I would be glad I cultivated (love, acceptance, joy, fun, creative expression, justice, freedom etc), became (skilled, loving, courageous, enlightened), did (travel, achievements, parent, build business), forgave or transcended (illness, abuse, poverty, smallness, victim-hood). Take some time to consider what’s important to you. List these.
 
2) Consider the last 7 days. Write out what you spent your time on and what thoughts you predominately entertained.
 

3) If what you focused on is creating your life – how much of your focus is on what’s important to you?
 

Questions to create change…

 

I wonder what would it take to prioritise my dreams in my thinking?

What changes could I instigate and choices could I make to focus on what’s truly important to me?

Am I willing to make a demand of myself to take my hopes, dreams and loves seriously – with respect, honour, trust and importance?

Am I willing to let go of whatever is telling me I can’t, I shouldn’t or it’s not practical?

 
If you would like to look at this in more depth and to get help to bring bout change contact me and I’d be happy to work with you.

When we are small our parents are the ‘god’s of our universe’. They provide us with all the means for our physical survival. They set up the rules we are to behave by and they administer whatever punishment is deemed appropriate in the home. We then go to school and teachers take on a further authority figure role, then lecturers, guards, doctors, bankers, religious leaders and finally bosses.
 
If we have good loving relations, clear well defined boundaries and fair treatment in our home and other institutions we tend to grow into adults in our own right and come through the stages of development with little issues around authority figures.
 
If we are unfairly treated, ‘put in our box’, ‘made to feel small’ or otherwise conditioned to be fearful around authority figures we can revert back to feeling and thinking like a frightened child around them even though we have aged into adulthood.
 
Here is a process that can be used to correct our perspectives when meeting with bosses and authority figures. When you approach these encounters thinking and feeling like an equal adult, who is of equal value with an agenda that is based on the greatest good of all (win-win) then you will not feel intimidated.
 
It is the perspective that you are small (powerless, at the mercy of, dependent on) and they are big (powerful, in control, controlling) that is generating the feelings of intimidation. You are no longer a child and are equal to all people. They have a role to play and you have a contract to fulfil – yet they are just roles – your roles and responsibilities are different but you are equal adult human beings.
 

1) Think of the situation / meeting with a boss which you are fearful of.
a. How do you picture it? Is it in full colour, movie like, with sound? Is it something you watch or are part of?
b. What kind of emotions or sensations come up?
Take note of this.
2) Become the ‘boss’, imagine stepping into their body and experience what it is like as the boss. What is that like? How does it feel? Take note of this.
3) Imagine seeing the scene as an observer: watch the two of you interact. Make sure to be at eye level and the same distance from ‘you’ in the scene and the ‘boss’. Hear your ‘you’ voice as your normal voice (not a child’s voice), hear the bosses voice as their real voice (not a parental voice), feel resourceful (leave all the intimidated feelings with the ‘you’ in the scene). What is this like? Make sure to see the situation from the outside and not be drawn into it. Take note of this.
4) Go back into the scene as yourself. See the boss out in front of you. Hear their voice coming from their mouth. Hear your voice coming from your throat area. How do you feel now?
 
Another thing you can do is process out/release the strong emotions:
Feel the unfair feelings you have around your boss and the adversarial vibes and ask yourself these questions over and over until you feel freer and got less emotion (note you do not have to get an answer – asking the questions will start to dissipate the feelings):
 
1) This feeling of upset (or anger or whatever) I welcome as best I can
2) I’m willing to experience and feel the feeling. It’s safe to do so.
3) It’s just a feeling, coming from me believing I am small relative to this person and it’s only energy.
4) I‘m willing to release it even though I think my point of view is ‘right’ (I don’t need to feel bad to take positive action)
5) Can I let it go
6) Will I let it go
7) And when

‘An apple a day keeps the doctor away‘…. This is a well known and more than anecdotally true statement. ‘We are what we eat‘ is common knowledge, with the link to poor nutrition and physical illness well reported and accepted.
 
What is not so well reported or accepted however is the equally strong proven link between poor nutrition and poor mental health.
 
We can recover from serious mental illness like PTSD, Bi-Polar disorders, Depression, Anxiety by having optimum nutrition. This means eating whole foods which are predominately plant based and adding high strength supplementation if required.
 
By cutting out refined, proceeded, sugar saturated ‘foods’ along with the preservatives and colourings they contain many of our mental issues, as well as our physical ailments can be reversed or cured.
 
Here’s a short talk on the subject:
The link between Nutrition and Mental Health

While we develop in childhood we are learning about how we and the world work. We learn what’s appropriate and inappropriate, right and wrong, good and bad, what behavior does and doesn’t get our needs met.
 

Our emotional brain (lymbic) records these learning’s emotionally, in such a way that should a similar experience occur in the future we have the learning available to us in order to cope with it.
For example, if we are judged as ‘showing off’ in class and are ridiculed for it we may feel intense embarrassment. Through this experience we emotionally learn that being the ‘center of attention and loving it’ is wrong and it’s important to prevent ourselves from feeling this level of embarrassment again.
 
How our mind might ensure we avoid the embarrassment is to give us an anxious feeling when we go to read in class, or give a speech in work. The anxiety prevents us enjoying being the center of attention and ‘showing off’. We believe (emotionally) this will spare ourselves the intense embarrassment that we learned comes with ‘showing off’.
 
We don’t remember consciously coming up with ‘anxiety’ as a strategy to prevent ‘embarrassment’ and in later life the anxiety itself becomes the ‘symptom’ we wish to change.
Symptoms (panic attacks, nervousness, lack of confidence, overeating etc) are the developing brains solutions to early/original emotional problems.
 
Positive affirmation and insight (which lay down new neural networks) doesn’t access or easily change the original emotional learning.
 
Those early developmental emotional learning’s are built to last.
 
Example:
• If I don’t eat I’ll feel so frustrated and alone. Food is always there for me and makes me feel happy. So I’ll overeat (solution) to prevent me facing my frustration (original emotional learning).
• I have to play small and not succeed (solution) because if I do well I’ll make people unhappy and feel bad (original emotional learning).
• If I relax and enjoy flying then something bad might happen, so I have to be on guard for that (original emotional learning) and remain anxious (solution).
 
Emotionally intense learning’s are formed by and stored in the brain’s limbic (emotional) system, and experiential process (i.e we have to access and feel the original memory/emotion) is required to reach and access this emotional material directly. Non-experiential, conceptual insights and interpretations are, in themselves, ineffective for true accessing because they take place in a very different brain system, the neocortex, which cannot control, override or even access the limbic system’s networks of emotional reality.
 
When we lay down new learning’s that contradict the original learning those new learning’s are stored in different parts of the brain and compete with the old emotional learning’s. So sometimes we can feel comfortable presenting (as we are running the new neural networks) and sometimes we feel panicked (when the original emotional learning is triggered).
 
This gives rise to incremental change, sometime felt as ‘one step forward two back’.
 
This can be frustrating and confusing for people who don’t understand how they can still be dealing with recurrent issues or not seem to be able to make lasting change.
 
Transformational change is achieved when we access the original emotions and memories and decode/unlearn/reappraise them in such a way that we no longer believe (emotionally) what it is we learned e.g we no longer believe we are alone, not good enough, wrong, incapable and so on. This can only be done emotionally and is uncomfortable yet rewarding work. It is often best done with a trained therapist yet can also be done by oneself.
 
Once the original emotional learned experience(s) and feelings have been accessed and felt the implied learning can be made conscious (e.g I’m alone in life, I hurt people, I can’t be trusted, I’m not good enough) reassessed, released and updated new learning can be installed emotionally in those neurons.
In this way when you say something like ‘I’m a good person and it’s safe to enjoy being the center of attention’ it will both be rationally true and felt emotionally as true. The inner conflict will have been resolved and the symptom e.g anxiety can then automatically stop happening as there is no longer an emotional reason for it to operate.
 
Coherence therapy, EMDR, EFT, Hypnosis and NLP are all therapeutic techniques that can be employed to access and change original emotional learning’s.
 
To find out more call 01 207 9615 or email info@dublinmindtraining.com

Every word can be considered to be a unit of energy – the units can be positive and accumulate like a juicy savings account, with plenty of funds to pay for all we want in life, or the units can be negative, like over-drawing every month on our wages.
 

The more positive feeling words (positive thinking) we use the greater the emotional income. Choosing to think and talk in positive feeling words will result in more enthusiasm, motivation, self belief and get-up-and-go. And our choice of words is a choice we can make, and train ourselves to be disciplined in making.
 
As our actions in life (e.g filling in an employment form, asking someone on a date, moving to a new country, deciding on what we’ll eat etc) are motivated by how we feel, it pays large dividends to be in the habit of feeling good and resourceful. In that way our actions are likely to be motivated towards succeeding and making progress in life.
 
The converse is also true, negative, depressed, fearful feelings motivate avoidance and attacking type behaviours and tend not to get us ahead on our goals and dreams.
 
As every feeling stems from a thought and a thought is basically a ‘word’, becoming fluent in positive language is an achievable way to bring about better feeling states and therefore better more resourceful actions.
 
Positive words can be learned and practised.
 
The alphabet game is an enjoyable way of doing this. I have uploaded an example on the Free Stuff page that you can listen to and get into the habit of positive language.
Listen here: The Alphabet game!