Irish Times writer face down her fear of water…
Emma had a phobia (strong fearful reaction) of diving into water.
We only had time for a single session, so we covered the essentials and the practical approach to resolving the fear.
Thanks to the effectiveness of the process, my experience and Emma’s bright and willing participation, all went to plan and Emma had her triumphant moment.
The link below takes you to her article:
Feeling confidence and resourceful…
Hi Ailish. You’ve been on my mind recently. Just thought I’d sent a quick message to say hello and let you know I’m doing well. My head is in a good place and so much of my anxiety has been broken down completely. It hasn’t been put to the test on a serious level but I do feel Id have the skills to cope significantly better if it did. I appreciate so much all you did for me. And I could not feel this confident without the work you put in to our sessions.
Kindest regards and best wishes.
Greater confidence and relaxation…
It has taken me some time to write this email I have been extremely busy with work and also my social life, which thanks to you I am not afraid to say yes to invites such as dates and parties.
I believe since I completed the confidence course with yourself I am in a much happier and relax frame of mind.
In my professional career I am also more confident and I believe in my own ability much more than I had before. I have more confidence in speaking up and challenging people who may be in a higher position (in a respectful manner of course), this is due to the fact that I stopped see them as people who are above me and just as people themselves, whom i can talk to and also learn from.
I still implement the practices that we covered in our sessions and I refer back to the book when I need to which I think helps and I am so grateful to have it at my disposal.
Thank you again for all your help and I hope I remain calm, confident and happy and always remember to keep my own perspective in all sutations and not let them after me.
Presentation goes well…
Just wanted to let you know I had my presentation this morning and it went well. I felt nervous on and off especially in the few days coming up to it… As soon as I started today though, the nervousness died down and …I felt fine overall. I got good feedback on it afterwards which was good…
Overall I am very happy with how I did it is a big step forward for me.
Thank you very much for your help and hopefully I will continue to progress in this manner.
I got this email from ‘C’. He wanted to write a note of thank you and also hoped that his experience might inspire others to go for support. He had put off going for help and once the sessions were over had only wished he’d gone sooner.
Blood phobia resolved…
thanks so much for the training etc in getting over my fears surrounding blood, needles etc. I was able to be by my wife’s side throughout her labour, it turned out to be quite a long one and ended in an emergency c-section, which I was able to attend. Thanks to the techniques etc I learned with you it was a manageable process for me….
Money well spent…
How are things ailish,
Just wanted to let you know how far we came since 20th of September.
On the locus of control test I’ve gone from 17 out of 30 to 7 out of 30
on the self esteem test from 30% to 70%
And on the social anxiety test 50% to 30%
I think it’s fair to say we made huge progress in breaking down the shite beliefs I had about myself. I just wanted to thank you again for all the help you’ve given me, it’s easily the best money I’ve ever spent.
Have a great Christmas, all the best
Stress Free Eye Surgery
Hello there Ailish,
Sorry it has taken me the week to email you. I returned to work on Monday and it has all been a bit mental since!
Last Wednesday went well! I got through it. My mum came in with me to the surgery and she couldn’t believe how calm and strong I was!! She tapped my hand when I lay and got lasered!
It was all over in a matter of minutes! The pain was pretty bad afterwards but to be honest I did not mind that much as I was so relieved I had finally done it!
I now put in my own eye drops 4 times a day!!
The other eye is tomorrow so hopefully all will go as well as last week.
Thank you for all your help and patience over the last few weeks Ailish, it really made such a difference. And now I will have sight for life! Amazing.
Thank you again,
41, male resolved sexual impotence
I rang you earlier today, just wanted to say thank you for everything you helped me with.
In our last session, I was frustrated/annoyed. I don’t believe I will ever feel like this again.
With the four lines you gave me from the first session we had a few weeks ago I started feeling curious (while I’m gradually finding it easier to get aroused), also instead being nervous about having sex I am looking forward to it. At 41 years old that’s a bit embarrassing…
Thank you just doesn’t seem enough to express how much I appreciate all your help….
Finding benefit in Hypnosis Recording
Just wanted to say that i downloaded your relaxation mp3 some days ago.
And WAUW… its just amazing. I have never in my entire life felt so relaxed and good. Its like im in a dream of sort and everything around me just floats away.
Well again thank you so much for this amazing session. If you ever make one like that again … i would buy it in a sec.
Making Continual Progress…
I meant to send you a little note last week just to say thank you for all your help over the past few months. I am getting there and the little trigger sentences have really helped me be aware of my thinking. I think the next stage will be open to possibilities in the “boy” department.
My only regret is that I didn’t find you sooner
Dear Ailish ..
I live in Sydney , Australia.. and I love your relaxation tape .. and your voice. I feel that our ‘sound’ is a lot of who we are ..
I have it on my iPod.. and I am making a copy for a friend who has anxiety..
thank you for making it available.. and best wishes to you and all of us.. from across the sea..
Exams finished last week. No major upsets thankfully. I kept it together quite well (tummy in bits though, but that’s normal!). I had one v tricky exam but did what I could with it so fingers crossed.
Thanks for all your help. The dream technique did really work and I was much calmer after my visit to you. I adopted the attitude, sure they’re only exams, not the end of the world if I fail. It really worked!
What people are saying about the Thrive Programme…
Trying New Things…
“I’ve just signed up for a big challenge for charity. A year ago I would not have had the confidence to even think I could do this. I’m in a much better place now with regard to my ‘thinking’ and I would like to pass on a big thank you for helping me reach this point”
Life changing Emetophobe…
“I had emetophobia for over 20 years, a phobia that developed when I was about 6 years old. Anyone who knows anything about emetophobia will know that it effects every single aspect of your life and is extremely debilitating. My beliefs, coping mechanisms and behaviour had been repeated every day for 20 years and within one month all of this changed.
I decided to work through the book with a therapist and I found this very useful – if you have a therapist in your area who specialises in CLB I would highly recomend it.
This book changed my life.”
Changing Negative Behaviour…
“I’ve never been so grateful for the existence of a programme which genuinely is so different and helpful over therapies such as CBT.
A major example of my problems included feeling depressed on a regular basis and using alcohol and destructive behaviours as a way to mask these feelings. I was often told to just stop drinking and to stop engaging in certain behaviours, despite having never really been told how. It constantly made me feel like I was helpless, and began to believe that I should accept that this is me, my personality, and theres no point trying to change my ways.
Thrive is an actively engaging programme which… really does change the way you react, think and feel about almost everything in life. It has truly made me realise that life is actually pretty simple, and what happened to me in the past is the past, and by simply re-gaining control of my thoughts and therefore actions, I am the happiest I could have ever imagined. Thrive truly saved me, and nothing I can say can explain the depth and extent to which it did so, but all I know is that those feelings of sadness and helplessness are a genuine distant memory and Ive never felt so in control of all my emotions.
Even if theres someone out there with minor confidence issues, giving up addictions, or weight-loss, theres nothing I would recommend more than this programme. It lasts forever, because you don’t just leave the programme with a list of techniques and ideas, you leave a changed you.”
3 years fatigue cured in 24 hours…
“Purchased by husband on Amazon after searching for books on Post Viral Fatigue and then sorting by best review. He had no expectation of success on purchasing but felt he had exhausted all other options. Over 3 years of post viral fatigue symtoms cured completely once he had worked through this book doing 1 chapter per day. It explained everything he needed to know about how his mind worked, what was causing the problem and most importantly what to do to fix it. Results were immediate after even the first session and he hasn’t looked back in 6 weeks nor does he have any concerns that he will.”
Gained control of compulsive eating…
“The sessions have been hugely informative and enlightening. Very simple concepts explained clearly and meaningfully. I enjoyed the theory – the study and thinking behind why we are the way we are.
I am now in control of my compulsive eating habit. It is easy an actually pleasurable to decide not to eat the snacks, cakes etc. I feel more confident too, and actually much happier generally. It has changed how I treat and speak to my children and colleagues.”
50 and looking forward…
“I feel like i have been on a journey with this and you have been brilliant. I now feel more confident and can understand why I felt so negative about lots of my life. I am 50 this year and I feel like I am on the threshold of life!!! No more negative thoughts for me. I now look and observe people in a different way and I feel more pragmatic about my life. This has given me my life back.”
“Excellent as a first port of call for life change”
“This workbook is extremely well written and the content easily accessible to anyone who wants to make changes in their life whether small or indeed life-changing. The way it is set out is easy to follow and enables the reader to embark on a journey to change themselves from their core. I wasn’t 100% convinced it could work for me upon purchasing it but, as it was recommended to me, I knew it had to have value for me so I gave it a go. It has certainly enabled me to embark on a path fuelled by positive thinking rather than negative and the excercises are invaluable in allowing you to take stock of yourself and your achievements. It gives you permission to give yourself a pat on the back for what you have already achieved in your life with a view to building on that platform and taking your life forward to where you want it to go. I would definitely recommend this workbook to anyone who wishes to change their life in any way, big or small. Go for it (especially the sceptics!)- challenge yourself to take your life forward with a little helping hand!!!”
Worthwhile and Successful…
“It was good to have someone to talk to who understood me and could help me improve my situation. I am now free to enjoy activities without fear or anxiety stopping me. I enjoyed every minute, it’s been worth every penny.”
The programme is absolutely tremendous….
The programme has help me with confidence, stress and relationship issues. Just after two sessions I noticed massive changes in me, in seeing positives in so much more and realising that I am in control of my life – which benefits confidence, esteem and mannerisms. I use the DREAM and SMART techniques on a daily basis, and I have recommended this programme to several people, and even to the local college where I work to help learners benefit in their education. This is a superb approach and I would just like to say a big thank you for helping change my life.
The funeral yesterday was lovely and my reading went incredibly well. Having previously broken out in cold sweats with a pounding heart just at the thought of public speaking, yesterday I wasn’t in the least bit nervous before or during the reading and, shock horror, I actually enjoyed it!
Buy this book…
Want to make some changes in your life but not sure where to start, what to do or how to do it? Then buy this book, it guides you through showing you how to feel powerful and how to make these changes for yourself, how to overcome high social anxiety and low self esteem. You’ll probably find this book will help you to sort out a few other issues along the way that you didn’t even think about – it short this book WILL help you to change your life!
“The book was very easy to read and made sense, the theories put forward were backed up with lots of evidence and examples which makes them easy to accept. I quickly saw improvements and these had a compound effect, I am looking forward to going through the book again to see what else it has to offer. There are very simple to learn, easy to remember, life changing tips in the programme. I realise now that it is all me. I wasn’t sure if I would like the programme. I did.”
Amazing, life changing!Alopecia gone…
If you have any issues what so ever or if you just want to help or understand other people this is the book. I have alopecia and not only did this book change my life and my way of thinking it also made me feel better physically. My hair even started to return. Life’s too short and no one has ever taught us how to think and how to manage our thougts until now:) I can’t reccomend this book enough.
Easy weight management…
I still amaze myself at how in control I am… My clothes are much looser and I feel so much better about myself and my ability to reach my target. I don’t think I have ever been so focused, I don’t even think that’s the right word as I just don’t think about food anymore unless I am hungry or planning a meal. It no longer dominates my thoughts which is brilliant! I am still in awe of myself and giving lots of pats on the back!!
All areas improved…
I am feeling brilliant. The CLB course has really helped in all aspects of my life; work, study, relationships and socialising. Something has just shifted and I feel back in control of my life and my own happiness once again. I don’t feel overwhelmed by work or stressed after a disaster date. I feel confident and happy. I have cut down drinking, am eating healthily, have quit smoking and am working at improving my finances. I would recommend the CLB course to anyone with issues of self-esteem or low control. Anyone who is feeling depressed or just a bit lost. It was life changing.
I realise that I am much more in control of my own destiny and happiness. Instead of waiting for things to come along, I can make them happen.I feel I am the driving force in my own life, and not ‘swept along in it’. If a difficult situation arises, I am able to deal with it in a positive way instead of feeling helpless. I have found I am more relaxed in general and probably nicer to be around!
Just wanted to say thank you for all you have helped with, for the first time in my life I feel in control of my eating and a lot more confident in myself that I can reach my goal. I am sleeping better and not worrying so much about (things).
“I own both the Kindle and the paperback copy of this, as I am so devoted to it! I have changed my catastrophic thinking and am living much happier, healthier, and confident. I genuinely think that this is the best self help book I have ever read, and I would almost guarantee your every success if you read this book! As another reviewer suggested- if you want to be happy, buy this book! Vera xx”
Chronic Fatigue Resolved…
I had chronic fatigue, was very unhappy, thought very negatively and had a phobia of food. While I was on holiday in Thailand I tried pizza, prawns and the Indian food we were given on the plane! It is getting easier to try things and when I look at certain dishes now I think I’d like to try them instead of thinking they look awful. Thank you so much for all your help. The course has changed my life and I can’t put into words how grateful I am.
“Enabled me to change my life!”
“Had tried everything to control life-long anxiety and nothing worked, until now! I have always suffered from panic attacks and thought there was no way out. I was getting to the point of wanting to give up altogether. Tried CBT, didn’t work, tried antidepressants, no joy, tried many other self help books with no success. Tried self hypnosis cd’s. All these did not help and my anxiety was getting worse. Was getting panic attacks at the thought of any social situations. Then in 6 sessions I was cured! No Really – I am completely cured!!! I learnt how to stop myself feeling helpless and useless and not feel self worth, to being confident and capable to do anything I want to do. I can now enjoy doing things I never thought I could. I have changed my life because of this book – IT REALLY WORKS!!!”